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Wanting to be Honest- January 29, 2011
June 5, 2011

Dear Sam,

My friend from high school has decided that she wants to enjoy herself in ways that really don't have much quality. She sees my life going well and asks why her life can't be like mine. I want to tell her the truth that its because she's doing things to hurt herself, but I'm scared she won't respond well. What should I do?

-Wanting to be Honest-

Dear Honest,

I'm glad you haven't abandoned your friend even though she is walking a path different from yours. The fact that she is being honest with you about her disappointments is at least a starting point for her. The question for her is whether she just wants to envy and complain or whether she is actually at a point of change. The question for you is when and how do you use the truth for her benefit and not for her harm. Jesus told many truths that made people angry with him. He also talked to people in ways that changed their lives forever. Tell her about times when things weren't going well for you and you were disappointed. This is true about life and about the experiences we need in order to learn life lessons. If she feels encouraged that even her mistakes could be useful, she may be more willing to consider a change in her expectations and life-style. Maybe her need for enjoyment is in order to avoid or deny pain. But truth be told, no matter how rightly we live our lives, troubles do come. If you see her consistently hurting herself, it may be that injury and pain are her closest companions, and that she just wouldn't know how to live without them. Just saying “Stop hurting yourself” won't be helpful. Rather than using truths that tell her how wrong she is, you might begin to tell her the truths about how valuable she is. She clearly doesn't know or believe that, and she will never enjoy herself until she can enjoy herself. Also, pray for her. You can't get into her secret places, that's God's job. Ask him to do that and to prepare her heart for your valuable friendship.


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