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Unsure- September 11th, 2010
September 28, 2010

Dear Sam,

  My family is church-going, but I’ve begun to notice that they really don’t do anything that God’s Word says. They still drink, gossip, tell lies, yell and scream at each other. This doesn’t make sense to me. I’m starting to try to act the way God says, but now their relationship with me is getting worse. How can I make sure that we get along better because God is in my life?


Dear Unsure,

  Please know that your dilemma is not unusual, nor are you necessarily doing anything wrong that is causing problems. In fact, it is your doing things right that may be the problem-causer. Look at Jesus. No one caused more problems than he, and yet he did everything that God wanted.
   A very smart Christian, Oswald Chambers, wrote about this in his devotional book “My Utmost for His Highest”. (Get a copy!) He said “If we obey God it is going to cost other people more than it costs us, and that is where the sting comes in...If we obey God it will mean that other people’s plans are upset and they will gibe us with it - ‘You call this Christianity?’ We can prevent the suffering...but we must not...we must let the cost be paid”.
   No one likes to see that the way they are living is not right, and as you are beginning to be different than they, it can be a slap in the face to them. The only other option is to go back to being just like them. That will relieve the strain, but as you have noticed, it is not what God wants. Other people most definitely are affected, for better or for worse, by our behaviour and attitude. Your family is bearing the consequence of your obedience to God’s Word. You will have to trust God to look after them, just like Jesus did. Jesus could not be responsible for the anger he invoked. He had to let the chips fall where they may, and remain loyal to his Father.
   Chambers goes on to say “Beware of the inclination to dictate to God as to what you will allow to happen if you obey Him.” God chose you to be a light of truth in your family. This is a dangerous assignment, but God is aware of that and has made provisions to keep you safe. The thing to remember is that God is loving your family through you. He is touching them in their sore, wounded places. They are scared and are trying to protect themselves. But no healing can occur if you do not allow the physician to examine and manipulate those wounds.
   Just make sure that you keep loving them. Don’t respond with annoyance or impatience. God is working - with them, but with you, too. Keep those blessing flowing.

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