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Desperate- July 17th, 2010
September 2, 2010

Dear Sam,

  What is the meaning of life, anyway? I try my best to be good, and it all turns out wrong. I know that religion says that life is for discovering God, but I can’t find him, and if I did, he would just yell at me like everyone else. What am I doing wrong?


Dear Desperate,

  I’m glad you are thinking and not just feeling. Your emotions are pretty raw right now, and it would be easy for you to just give in to despair, but instead of giving up and drowning, at least you are struggling and coming up for air.
   Could that be part of the meaning of life? Maybe you have discovered God, if God is life and you are wanting to figure things out and connect to reality. Yes, it is difficult at times when everything is a mess, but sometimes the mess is just the renovations that require the upheaval so that a remodelling can take place. Picture this in your mind as if you are actually changing the whole structure of your house, tearing down walls and throwing out the old appliances. It’s a daunting endeavor, but if you follow it through, you will be really pleased with an update.
   The meaning of life is what you choose to think and do when everything you imagined and hoped for is destroyed. History has lots of examples of people who went through terrible experiences and ended up thanking God for what they learned and how they could then help others. I don’t want you, however, to rush into a self-demand to buck up and ignore your pain. Engage your suffering, talk to God about how disappointed you are, sort through your expectations. When we are little, certain ways of behaving and believing are appropriate, but as we mature, those ways become out of date and obsolete in actually solving the issues of life. When you were young, maybe “being good” was the perfect way to please your parents and get the approval you needed. The same kind of childish obedience and letting others do the thinking for you will not work when you become the adult. Now you have to decide and take responsibility for approving of yourself. Even if others yell at you, you can learn to shield yourself so that your whole identity is not dependent on their expectations of you.
   It sounds to me like you are actually yelling at yourself because, try as you might, you are not succeeding. What if you heard God tell you that he loves you even when you are imperfect, when others don’t, when all your attempts at goodness fail? God will certainly counsel you about what doesn’t work in life (sin), but that’s only so that you can throw out that old appliance that will electrocute you and replace it with something safe. And that’s why I think that maybe you have encountered God right now. He may be telling you that your old pattern of “goodness” needs to be replaced with learning how to respond to yourself and others in a way that satisfies the real issues. And that’s what gives life meaning - growing, changing, learning how to be all that you are capable of. Don’t try to escape this difficult moment. It has all of God’s blessings attached to it. Find a counsellor who understands how God works, and take up this challenge.

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